Same-Sex/Hetero Gender Roles in Marriage

This is an interesting article in the NYT about the differences between gender roles in same-sex and heterosexual relationships. Money quote:

“The findings suggest that heterosexual couples need to work harder to seek perspective. The ability to see the other person’s point of view appears to be more automatic in same-sex couples, but research shows that heterosexuals who can relate to their partner’s concerns and who are skilled at defusing arguments also have stronger relationships.”

I think this premise is hard to argue. It does seem to make sense that when a couple doesn’t contend with the differences in gender, they have less of an obstacle in relating to one another but I would also add that it’s far from “automatic” for any couple. This rings true to my own experience. I find that when I’m being a more supportive and loving husband, it’s usually because I’ve consciously avoided the inherent emotional obstacles that come standard in my man-ness.

Thoughts?

Pursuit over Possession

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“The true value of a man is not determined by his possession, supposed or real, of the truth, but rather by his sincere exertion to get to the truth. It is not possession of truth but rather the pursuit of truth by which he extends his powers and in which his ever growing perfectibility is to be found. Possession makes one passive, indolent, and proud. If God were to hold all truth concealed in his right hand and in his left hand only the steady and diligent drive for truth, albeit with the proviso that i will always and forever error in the process, and to offer me the choice, I will in all humility take the left hand and say, “Father, I will take this. The pure truth is for you alone.”

Gotthold Lessing

(HT: Andrew Sullivan)

iChat just got a lot better……

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If you are a Mac user and run iChat, then you have to check out this new iChat plug-in called Chax. It allows you to use tabs for all of your chats in one chat window. It also have a ton of preferences that make iChat a much better application than it already is.

Download here now, thank me later.

P.S. If any of you already knew about this but didn’t tell the rest of us, then you’re gonna end up here!

“Christians don’t shoot Christians.”

There is an interesting article at CNN.com regarding the pastor’s wife in Tennesse who allegedly killed her husband. She been charged with his murder but has recently pled not guilty. Obviously, this is a very sad story but it is also a very interesting look into the dynamics of Christian faith communities in small town, rural America.

This quote caught my eye:

“What would cause a godly woman to do such a thing?” asked neighbor Sharon Everitt, echoing the question that has hung over the rural town since late March. “Christians don’t shoot Christians.”

If so, then who do Christians shoot?

The Age of AIDS

2412.jpgThe brilliant show Frontline on PBS will be airing an episode on May 30th titled “The Age of AIDS”. Frontline always delivers powerful and compelling insights into all the issues it confronts and I’m confident that this upcoming episode will be no different. Here is a note from the Frontline website:

“On the 25th anniversary of the first diagnosed cases of AIDS, FRONTLINE examines one of the worst pandemics the world has ever known in The Age of AIDS, airing Tuesday and Wednesday, May 30 and 31, from 9 to 11 P.M. ET on PBS (check local listings). After a quarter-century of political denial and social stigma, of stunning scientific breakthroughs, bitter policy battles and inadequate prevention campaigns, HIV/AIDS continues to spread rapidly throughout much of the world. Through interviews with AIDS researchers, world leaders, activists, and patients, FRONTLINE investigates the science, politics, and human cost of this fateful disease and asks: What are the lessons of the past, and what can be done to stop AIDS?”