The biblical revelation is about awakening, not accomplishing. It is about realization and not performance principles. You cannot get there, you can only be there, but that foundational Being-in-God, for some reason is too hard to believe, and too good to be true. Only the humble can receive it, because it affirms more about God than it does about us.
The ego, however, makes it all into achievement and attainment, and at that point religion becomes a worthiness contest, in which everybody loses, which they realize, if they are honest. Many people give up on the who spiritual journey when they see that they can’t live up to the performance principle. They don’t want to be hypocrites, I see this is especially males.
— Richard Rohr, Things Hidden